Romance is something we dream about. We can all dream ...but, don't let the dream destroy us or others. Reality is what we fail at ...and it is quite important that we live in reality. So, we will all fail ...while we will all succeed in disappointing others.

Beyond our dreams is a reality that is beyond our wildest dreams.  But, that kind of wild is very much tempered. And that kind of reality is not just any kind of reality.  Our present pain is real.  Our present suffering is real. But, if part of our present includes joy, happiness, and peace ...this other jpy, peace, and happiness will have to be redefined by something we can't presently imagine, nor would we be able to ever describe it.  And it will be everlasting.

This is not happiness at another's expense, nor centered upon 'self' ...it is what Jesus died for.  

That is, for us.